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YOUTH STRAIGHT TALK ISSUES.... Q and A
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Q. I am a Christian, and I just found out that my girlfriend is Wiccan. We should probably break up, but I’m just afraid I’ll ruin the chance of leading her to Christ. I love her, but should I still end the relationship? What should I do?
A. The Bible says, “What fellowship has Christ with Belial?” And Belial is another name for the devil. Those who are involved in witchcraft, demons, evil spirits—Wiccans, they think they’re good. They’re white witches, and it’s okay, but it’s not. Get out before it gets you. You say, “Well, I’m strong.” Well, you may be, but I would break it off. I think it’s a big mistake. And you say, “Well, I’m going to lead her to the Lord.” Well, maybe. But as long as you’ve got a romantic relationship, and there is a bond between you, you’re joining yourself to somebody who has in turn joined to the devil. And I don’t think that’s too good an idea.
Q.I’m a 17-year-old guy with a big problem. I can’t stop looking at women. I know it’s wrong, but it’s extremely difficult for me to control my impulses. I’ve prayed once to God about this issue, but I’m still struggling. I’m still a new Christian. How can I solve this problem?
A. Well, welcome to manhood. The issue is not looking at women. I can tell from just the tone of how you write that it’s not just that for you. What you’re going through is what Scripture is very specific about, and that’s lust. So don’t call it anything other than what it is. I’ve found it helpful to do that. Unmask it. Don’t make it pretty. Don’t make it gentle. Don’t try to give excuses for it. Looking at women is okay. The urge to marry and to have children is a good urge. That’s how the human race has grown so fast in such a little period of time. But at the same time, if you let it control your thoughts—and it’s the thought life that you really get into trouble with—then it’s a complete mistake. Start just reminding yourself, “That’s just a fantasy. That’s not real.” Realize that they are a person, that they are made in the image of God, that they have a living spirit within them. When you start taking that thought process all the way there, then you don’t have to worry about lust anymore.
Q. I’m 14 and was wondering, is it wrong to be with unchristian friends at lunch? They always swear and gossip. I try telling them to stop, but they don’t. What should I do?
A. The Bible says have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness. Rather, reprove them. There comes a time when your witness is getting overwhelmed by their conduct. Rather than you nagging them all the time, it’s better to find Christian friends and begin to pray for them. A lot of times they do that just to get your goat. They’re teasing you. So I would just say stay away from them. It’s really having no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness. That’s biblical.
Q. I come from a Christian family, but my family wont accept the fact that I sometimes date outside of my race. I find it very hard to find common ground with my parents on this topic. Is this really wrong?
A. Look, there's nothing wrong with dating outside your race. I don't know if you're talking about whether you're black and you're dating white people, or whether you're Asian and dating Caucasian people. You didn't say what race you're talking about. But God made all races from one. They all came from Adam and Eve, so the'yre all part of one.The question is not the color of somebody's skin or the way their eyes are cast, but whats in their heart? I think your parents should be concerned about whether you're dating people who know the Lord. That's what's important. If you're dating a heathen, or they are trying to bring you into idolatry, then it's a different matter.